Talking with kids about planes that fall from the sky

Sometimes the world makes me tired.

This morning while I was wracking my brain for camp lunch ideas I suddenly realized that my seven year old daughter was standing in the kitchen with me. She wasn’t doing anything, just standing with the vacant expression that appears on her face when the wheels are turning in her head or she is in TV-watching bliss.

I asked her what she was doing and she said she was listening to the radio. Read more of this post

I’m Proud of My Brother




My brother achieved a milestone in his life yesterday.  He achieved a goal that he has worked towards fro the past five years. He quit a job and an entire industry.  He worked in restaurants for 16 years and has been trying to get out for about half that time. about five years ago he decided what the next thing was that he wanted to do with and in his life.   Read more of this post

So Much Anger!

Our two oldest girls tend to have fights from time to time.  Sometimes – very unusual I know – there is overwrought emotional expression involved in these discussions.  We have encouraged them to consider drawing their feelings instead of hitting the offending combatant.

On the weekend Laura and I were the recipient of the following expressions of emotion… Read more of this post

Parenting from the park bench


A while ago I wrote about resilience and wrestling with questions about how I could help my children to develop resilience.  Since I wrote that post I have been doing some reading.  I generally don’t read much parenting advice because I don’t find it particularly helpful.  Either I disagree with the recommendations or they are in direct opposition to the last piece of advice I read.  Our kids are still alive so I think we are doing an ok job so far… Read more of this post

Buttons and the kids who push them

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I am a parent and I have buttons.  Not just the ones on my shirts or that prevent my pants from falling off, no I also have the harder to see ones that my kids are so good at identifying.  Some days I think they are humming the button factory song.

Hello my name is Joe and I work in a button factory
I have a house, and a dog, and a family
One day, my boss said to me, “Hey Joe, are you busy?”
I said, “No”.
He said “Turn the button with your left hand.” Read more of this post

Teaching girls about sexual health

To start things off I would like to thank Joyce McFadden for her piece in the Huffington Post on this same topic. (

I have two little girls and my wife and I have always referred to all of their body parts by their anatomical names with one early error that we need to correct.  We taught them that their external genitalia is called a vagina, when we should have said vulva.  This article has reminded me that I need to correct this.   We read the Bare Naked Book by Kathy Stinson with them as toddlers to help them learn the names of their body parts.

I know for many dads the topic of the sexuality of their little girls is an uncomfortable one. Read more of this post

When kids attack!

Over the past few days I have attended a couple of professional development workshops through work that dealt with developing resilience and leadership.  I’ve recently become interested in questions around resilience as I ponder how to help my kids to be resilient children who grow into even more resilient adults. Read more of this post