Sex Ed: It’s So Amazing!

Our oldest daughter is seven years old and like many of our friends with kids this age, we have been wrestling with how much information to provide to her about sex and sexual health.  We had a baby a little over four months ago and of course that spurred a number of questions about how the baby got in there, how it gets out, etc.

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Response to Matt Walsh on Sex-Ed

Today I read a post by Matt Walsh detailing his views on sexual health education in schools.  I could not disagree more with the position he takes.  He doesn’t believe that schools should be teaching sexual health topics except perhaps anatomy in biology class.  Read more of this post

Talking “The Talk”

For the past month I have been helping out at Planned Parenthood Ottawa on an interim basis.  We are starting to develop some resources to help parents talk with their kids about sexual and reproductive health – sex-ed by parents.  It can be pretty scary – terrifying actually when your five year old asks how babies get in to their mummies tummies and the want detail.  What do you say to your 11 year old son when he asks about porn he found online?  Not to mention what to say when you think your kid is hooking up or engaging in intercourse and they haven’t talked to you about it.

Help us build tools for you or your parents.  What do you wish you had known about sex/your body/sexual & reproductive health when you were growing up?  What are you afraid of / what do you need to know to help you prepare to talk with your kids?

Let’s talk.

Teaching girls about sexual health

To start things off I would like to thank Joyce McFadden for her piece in the Huffington Post on this same topic. (www.huffingtonpost.com/joyce-mcfadden/things-little-girls-need-from-their-fathers_b_3348956.html)

I have two little girls and my wife and I have always referred to all of their body parts by their anatomical names with one early error that we need to correct.  We taught them that their external genitalia is called a vagina, when we should have said vulva.  This article has reminded me that I need to correct this.   We read the Bare Naked Book by Kathy Stinson with them as toddlers to help them learn the names of their body parts.

I know for many dads the topic of the sexuality of their little girls is an uncomfortable one. Read more of this post

Memory

It is interesting how memory works.  Sometimes memories are powerful and pop-up at unexpected times.  Sometimes they come unbidden and other times more consciously on specific dates.  Sometimes we just forget.  In this particular case, I forgot.

Twenty-two years ago yesterday I became a father for the first time.  Until Laura reminded me last night, I had forgotten that it was June 5th and the significance of that date in my life.  It’s not like I really forgot my kids birthday.  Thomas and Jennifer (no longer their first names) are genetically my kids, but I haven’t seen them since they were 10 days old.  I was a teenager and my girlfriend at the time and I decided to place them for adoption. I’ve written and spoken about the whole experience many times in the past and I am not going to repeat it here.  If you are interested in the story, you can listen to the radio interview I did on the subject here: (www.cbc.ca/thecurrent/episode/2012/02/09/the-boy-with-the-past-documentary)

So June 5th is a memory marker for me.  It is fading with time.  I think that happens when you find peace with your memories.